Things I wish I had known then (or a list that would have saved me millions of tissues and tears)

1) Just because she brightens your day, life, year doesn’t mean you’re in love with her. You don’t need to label everything right away. Just because you realize you want to kiss girls doesn’t mean you need to have a meltdown. You’ll figure it out, I promise.

2) Once you figure it out, be careful who you tell. Even though you like to have all the boxes sorted and labelled inside your head, be careful who share it with. No, actually, that’s the mistake I made. Don’t be afraid of sharing. Screw the people who don’t accept you. Never apologize for sharing a part of yourself. (I’m still working on this, obviously)

3) Don’t allow everyone to notice how poorly you treat yourself. Act like you’re the shit. Pretend you don’t feel like you’re shit. The more you exude confidence, the more you’ll start believing in yourself. It gets better. Don’t allow yourself to feel inferior to them. You are not below anyone.

4) Just because boys don’t talk to you as much as your friend doesn’t mean you’re ugly. Just because he told you to lose some weight doesn’t mean you have to. Don’t starve yourself just to feed the wishes of insignificant people. Look in the mirror but don’t search for blemishes, instead admire the huge smile and the way your eyes glisten and the wrinkles around your mouth and the freckles splattered on your cheeks. You are beautiful.

5) Accept compliments. Learn to accept them. Don’t be sarcastic. Don’t be self-deprecating. Accept it. Then start believing it.

6) Your best friend will get better grades then you, I’m sorry. Your parents will compare the two of you, I’m sorry. You’ll start to feel inferior, in fact this will be your downward slope to the depths of self-deprecation that even the sharks tend to avoid. She is not better than you. You are in no way stupid, lesser, worse, awful. You are brilliant. Don’t compare yourself to others because you’ll always be disappointed. Not because they’re better than you, but because you have this awful habit of ignoring your strengths and exaggerating your flaws.

7) Everyone will not abandon you. Yes, I know, some will. But if you keep waking yourself up at night from nightmares of all of them dying, it’s bound to be a brutal existence. You can’t control the future. Lie to yourself. Tell yourself it will all be okay. Then start believing it.

8) Cut out the things that make you unhappy. Quit the activities that make you cry into your pillow at three am. They are not worth it. Put distance between the people that do the same. They are not worth it. Never apologize for taking care of yourself.

9) When it gets to the point one night when you have this urge, this powerful urge to die, don’t lock yourself in your room or in your head. Go to your little brother’s room, get under his blankets, hug him and remember why you need to keep going.

10) You can probably, most definitely do the thing you’re convincing yourself you can’t do. Every time you thought you couldn’t do something, every time you convinced yourself that it was all too much, you proved yourself wrong. Keep fighting. The sun will come out before you know it.

even poison has a way of teaching you a lesson before it infiltrates your veins

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therailz:

when you fuck up and realize there’s nothing you can do so you just accept it

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jadethemerman:

did he give her 2 thumbs up?



christ putin

no but my fave part of this is the writing on her back says “go sit on a dick Putin”

bonnsexuality:

sam-cortland:

Never apologize for your fluency in english.
If you have a different mother tongue, you are under no obligation to know english at all, let alone fluent english.
Never let anyone make you feel bad for not speaking proper english.
Be proud of your mother tongue.
Why should we learn their language when they mock and refuse to learn our own.

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Are you asking because you care or because you’re curious? 10 word story" series - #27  (via psychotic-therapy)

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champagnexstrawberrykisses:

expect-the-greatest:

Bruh

What the hell?

Niggas out here trappin women

Then wonder how your ass got burned

what the fuck…

I’ve had a dude do that before. that shit is terrifying. Dude went across the room like he typically would to get one. Came back and I didn’t know that he didn’t have one until he pulled out.
I FLIPPED. Cried all the way home. Cried for days. Got tested. Bought the morning after pill. Seriously, fuck dudes that do this. There should be laws against it.

There ARE laws against this. It’s called rape by deception or fraudulent rape and basically, it’s anytime the conditions of your consent are compromised. In a situation like this, you consented to protected sex. By having sex in a way you did not consent to, a crime WAS committed and he could be charged if any physical effects like pregnancy or STD occurred. Remember, ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY YOU DON’T CONSENT TO IS RAPE. 

If a guy does this, it’s rape. Call the cops. Ruin his life since he has no problem risking yours. Make him fucking learn. Rapists belong in jail. Rape by deception is rape, not a funny “meme”. 

This is incredibly important for everyone to see!! EVERYONE

yes YOU NEED THIS ON YOUR DASH EVERYONE

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danosaurs-and-philions:

im a bad person who thinks bad thoughts like ‘ew what is that girl wearing’ and then remember that im supposed to be positive about all things and then think ‘no she can wear what she wants, fuck what other people say damn girl u look fabulous’ and im just a teeny bit hypocritical tbh

I was always taught by my mother, That the first thought that goes through your mind is what you have been conditioned to think. What you think next defines who you are.

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momabraves:

Guys, I know that this isn’t a girl switching shows in a circle or a cute cat freaking out and running around a bed, but it’s important. My uncle, along with so many other people died 13 years ago tomorrow. My cousin has had to grow up without a father, her brother won’t ever get on a plane, her mother remarried to a man whose wife went down with her husband, all of them cry at the touch of a hat, sob at anything at all that reminds them of him. People at my school get so irritated about having to spend 15 minutes in class on 9/11 watching a tribute to the lost souls, but for those of us who will never get over it, it’s nice to have that one day that you can just break down and cry without having to worry about being thought of in a poor light. I hope this never happens again, and I hope that every single one of you realizes how lucky you are to still be alive today.

The very sad day that bush administration plotted and executed another well thoughtout excuse to invade a foreign country at the expenses of thousands of innocent lives of its own citizen snd decieves them n the world into thinking it’s terrorists. Bush administration paid the terrorist good money to participate in their plot.